We talk about chemistry like it's some magical spark that either exists or doesn’t. But here’s what I’ve learned after years of coaching and matchmaking: connection is something you build. It's not just about butterflies or shared Spotify playlists — it's about curiosity, presence, and emotional availability. When you start treating connection like a skill (one that can be practiced and refined), your dating life gets a whole lot more interesting — and way less disappointing. This post explores what it means to date with intention and how to strengthen your “connection muscle.”