Let’s be honest: dating apps can feel like a second job. You swipe, you match, maybe you chat — and then it fizzles. Or worse, it’s yet another “meh” coffee date that leaves you wondering why you even bothered. Here’s the truth: it’s not you. Most apps are built for volume, not connection. That means you’re often stuck in a loop of surface-level interactions that don’t feed your deeper desire for real partnership. In this post, we unpack why the burnout hits so hard and how to approach dating in a way that actually restores your energy — not drains it.